Every mom is a mom; there is no bad mom or a good mom. Just like every child is a child, there is no bad child or a good child. Since the day a small seed starts growing inside a woman, she becomes a mother. She eats to satisfy not one but two bodies. She smiles to keep happy, not one but two souls. When that baby comes into this world, she does all the best to care for that helpless doll. The mother feeds the child and teaches them to walk, speak, write, read, and more.
Motherhood: a tricky terrain to navigate
Did she do the best? Is she doing the right things? Is one apple a day better? Would a banana be better? Or should she add chicken to the diet as well? Oh no! She did not give her child the abcd book from the age of 2. She also did not teach her child to add toys to learn addition at the age of 4. Oh my God! She is such a bad mom. She does not know to take care of a child. Haye! she does not deserve to have a child. That’s it! End.
Who are we to judge this? Who are we to say if she deserves to have a child or not? Are we good children? Is a fat white child the only definition of a good mom? Should she be giving them Cerelac and not roti to justify this world that she is a good mom? Why?
“Jaisai paancho unglian barabar nahi hotin waisai har insaan aik jaisa nahi hota.” I heard this. This is the finest explanation of humans and their behaviors. We cannot all be the same. Not all situations we encounter are the same. Not every child that cries or every child that gets a slap has the same reason behind it. If one mother uses the dominance strategy, the other would definitely use the reward and punishment method. We cannot deal with every human in the same way.
Conclusion
Preach what you follow. If you do not wish to be judged by others and commented on everything you do or every step you take in life, then you must keep your own mouth shut when it comes to other people. Make sure you do not implement on others what you think is not suitable for you. Every mother is a human being; there is no bad mom or a good mom.
